I am an attractive young woman. Evaluations of my level of attractiveness and the relativity of my youth will vary from person to person (not to mention day-to-day), but generically speaking, this is a fair statement. I am also a professional in an industry populated mpstly by men. As such, I am largely at a disadvantage, but retain one *unique* advantage based on my personal presentation, if I choose to cultivate it.
This is a song familiar to a lot of you.
My office wear is carefully calculated to appear appropriate in the service of my own physical and mental comfort. Any aspect that could be challenged as “alluring” or “radical” is studiously balanced out. If my pants or skirt are form-fitting, my sweater or blouse is loose or non-confrontational. If my shirt is vee-necked and tight, my trousers are wide-legged and paired with a blazer. My hair, which is highlighted red and blonde, is subject to much comment by male colleagues (usually that it is too red and they prefer me blonder). I take it into consideration, but still wear silver-hooped earrings every day, because I like them, and their size and shape belies how much my ears stick out (I hate my ears). Every day, I wear an extremely high-quality, fake silver Rolex and a tasteful silver ring I bought on the street in Barcelona. I take pride in the fact that people who have worked with me for years are surprised to find out I have a tongue stud, because I chose a subtle one ten years ago.
Pantsuits and pearls are for client meetings, with discreet pearl-drop earrings and straightened hair. I have one gray suit and one black pinstriped suit. I wear them with shined, heeled black boots for external meetings, or burgundy Franco Sarto heels for meetings in the office. I bought both suits half-priced in a sale for $300, and then spent $100 in alterations. I don’t own a skirtsuit because I haven’t found one that fits me well enough to merit alterations, although I have a gorgeous turquoise shift that my mother bought me from M&S when she visited me last year, which is very professional without looking matronly. I keep it in the coat closet at work with a spare set of pantyhose, in case of an emergency client meeting.
Having been compared to a librarian, a schoolgirl, and a flight attendant at the office, I am careful to ensure I don’t look too costumey. I once wore a tight black sweater over a crisp white shirt, with a black skirt and buckled leather boots and realized, mirthfully, that I looked like a Pilgrim, but no one noticed. I wore that outfit again for Thanksgiving, for my own private tribute, because I am an American in the UK. (more…)