March 28, 2011
Posted by tailfeather under Bad Feminist Moment
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, Second Adolescence
While I was home over Christmas, I had my yearly facial with the awesome esthetician I’ve been seeing since I was 15 (15, and then in the throes of dermatological unpleasantness). She is the mistress of the art of extraction, and my first visit to her was as much a cultural touchstone of my entry into modern womanhood as my first trip to the gynecologist. Though no less painful than my first pap, at least the esthetician rubbed my face and shoulders down with essential oils, and I had glowy skin a week later, once the zits she coaxed to the surface and the redness had subsided. The gyno just poked me with a metal spatula and gave me the pill… which made me break out. (Sudden stroke of brilliant idiocy – spas that also offer pap smears! I am trademarking that business idea right now. Whole Women’s Health & Beauty sees you inside and out!).
Sadly, after treating my skin for almost 15 years and my own mother’s for 30, our esthetician was hanging up her tweezers, imported creams, and bug zapper to retire. This would be the last proper facial I will have in a while, as I’ve yet to find anyone half as good.
Lying back in the chair, listening to Enya, snuggled in my quilt, wholly safe in the hands of a professional, I was sad, and wanted to mark the occasion somehow. What about… a lip wax? I’d been annoyed at the downy hairs on my upper lip for some time. Terri is the only person I would let wax and pluck my eyebrows, given her skill, and the only person I trusted to tell me if an upper-lip wax would be a terrible mistake, or a bold move forwards. (more…)
January 27, 2009
Over the last year or so, I have come to a disturbing realization: young boys don’t seem to check me out on the street anymore. Before your perv detector goes off, let me explain. I am not looking to pick up sixteen-year-old boys, I simply noticed that their lingering glances or flirtatious grins are generally reserved for more nubile young babes, as well they should be. But probably up until 25 or so, I could still make a schoolboy blush with a wink or a wisecrack on the street, and now it’s suddenly occurred to me that I am old enough to be their older sister from their father’s first marriage.
When did I stop being, in the eyes of a younger generation, a hot girl, and become a woman?
Part of this passage is due to the fact that my career as an office slave requires me to dress like, well, a grown up. Long gone is the pink hair, the miniskirt and kneesocks combo, the torn fishnets and whimsical barettes I sported into my early twenties. These indicators of youthful abandon no longer feel appropriate, and while I don’t hesitate to show a little skin on the weekends, I have naturally become more inclined to Dress My Age and feel uncomfortably self-aware when I do choose certain articles of clothing or accessories better suited to a teenager.
I catch the image of myself in the reflective doors of the elevator in my office building, and examine my face and body for clues. What do other people see when they look at me? A girl in sheepish clothing, or a grown woman? If I’m in front of a client, is it obvious that I’m playing dress-up in an ill-fitting suit and strand of pearls, or do I project certitude and experience? Can anyone else see the feather-light lines splintering around my eyes, or is the fullness of my cheek more apparent? And how does my outward presentation versus my internal voice color my interactions? (more…)
August 6, 2008
I don’t know why this story annoys me quite so much but it really, really gets on my tits. The Joker Priscilla Presley, she of the massively messed-up face, says she doesn’t want Lisa Marie’s twins to call her “Grandma” because there’s such a negative connotation to the word.
What’s the connotation, Priscilla? That your child had a child???
I guess it’s not so surprising that The Joker Priscilla would take such offence to being called Grandma when one considers what she’s done to her face in order to stay youthful-looking. Irony: It didn’t work. Now every time I look at her, I see a woman in her 60s who’s destroyed her face in an effort to look 25. It aged her more assuredly than allowing nature to take its course ever would have.
I can’t wait til I’m in my 60s and there are kids around calling me Grandma. It will be one of the great parts about being in your 60s! Arthritis and failing hearing and eyesight will surely suck, but cuddling and hanging out with your children’s children and then being able to send them home at night to their parents sounds awesome to me.
It so pains me the many ways in which women refuse to accept their age. No one gets to opt out of aging. It happens to us all. And until all of us as women start to embrace aging with dignity and grace, we’re always going to remain fucked up about it. Hey, Priscilla! You’re 63! Deal with it!! Step away from the Botox, the lip injections and the cheek implants and enjoy your stinking grandchildren!!